As husband and wife, we become one flesh in our marriage. Not only in our physical relationship, but also in the fact that as a couple we become a unit, a team if you will. We take on tasks together, not as two separate people, but as one couple. Joann and I have been married for forty-three years, and for the most part we have operated as a team. Not that there hasn’t been times when we disagreed, however when we had differences of opinion, we came to an agreement and moved forward as a team.
Ephesians 5:30-31 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Marriage is the first institution ordained by God, and from the beginning He declared it to be a one flesh relationship.
Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
The husband and wife are to be a team and work together as a team. I have a four suggestions that will help us all to be good team members.
- Treat each other with respect. Don’t belittle or talk down to each other, especially in public.
- Encourage one another. Be your spouses biggest cheerleader. Elevate each other. Help your teammate win!
- Agree with one another. Make all major decisions together, you don’t always need to get your way.
- Manage Crisis together. Be there for each other in your time of need. Understand that your spouse will not react the same way that you do in times of trial.
So, what kind of a teammate are you today? I know that we can all improve on the idea of being a team as a couple. But, when you make a good team, you make a strong marriage.