Hope In Spite Of Being Homebound

Hope In Spite Of Being Homebound

As we navigate this time of uncertainty we grasp for something that will give us hope.  The President gets on television and tries to offer hope by referring to the “Professionals,” they try to offer hope by referring to statistics, the news media doesn’t offer much hope at all and we all get tired of being stuck at home without much hope of getting out any time soon.  People are yearning to go out to a restaurant and having a meal.

The only real hope there is today is in the Lord.  I know to some that may seem like just words, but the Lord has proven Himself trustworthy to me time and time again!

Psalm 42:5 Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted in me? hope thou in God: for I shall yet praise him for the help of his countenance.

The Biblical definition for hope is an expectation or confidence in the Lord.  Knowing that He will do exactly what he says he will do.  In light of the current events, the pages of Scripture are unfolding before our eyes!  Remember that much of the history that is in the Bible was prophecy at one time.  The one-world government, one-world monetary system, and even a one-world religion seem as though they will be very easy to pull off in today’s world.  All of which has been prophesied in Scripture to take place in the last days.

I have confidence that all these things will come to pass, because, my hope is in God not in a political, monetary or religious system.  I also have the expectation of arriving in heaven someday.  Nothing can change that.  I can say that my hope is in the Lord because I have placed my faith in the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ!

You too can have the hope of heaven today.  Admit that you are a sinner and need forgiveness for your sin.  Believe on Christ as your sacrifice for sin and ask the Lord to forgive you. Then your hope of heaven will be in God, not in yourself or some good work.

Titus 3:5 Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Ghost;

Have hope in these uncertain times.  Believe in God, He will keep you through the troubles, and deliver you home!  You will get out of this house and got to your home in heaven.  Have hope In Spite of Being Homebound!

Living In Spite of Our Circumstances

Living In Spite of Our Circumstances

In the turbulent times that we live in today, it is important to “LIVE IN SPITE OF” the current circumstances.  I realize that many restrictions have been put in place to help prevent the spread of the coronavirus and our lives have all been changed.  Many people have lost jobs, going to the grocery store is discouraging, as people hoard certain products and life can be a challenge at this time.

However, we must not allow our circumstances to keep us from LIVING our lives.  What I mean is, make the necessary changes, but don’t let the changes steal our joy and care for others.  Our children and grandchildren need to see us with a smile on our faces.  We shouldn’t be in panic mode, we need to rely on the Lord through trying times. When David was running from Saul and went to the enemies of Israel the Philistines, he was afraid, yet kept his trust in God.

Psalm 56:3 What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee.

As people that have placed the saving of their soul in the hands of God through Christ, we need to trust Him beyond our salvation.  Not in politicians or 401ks or having enough toilet paper to last for the next 6 months.  Our trust must be in the Lord.

Isaiah 26:3 Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.

Are we enjoying the peace of God today or are we fretting over the circumstances around us?  May we LIVE IN SPITE OF the current situation by enjoying the peace that comes from trusting in the Lord.

Remember, that there are many people that have loved ones that are in the hospital or nursing homes today that they are not allowed to see.  There are people that are directly affected by the coronavirus that are suffering.

Let’s look to lift someone up today.  Show others the peace of God and joy in the midst of trials.  Family and friends are watching us today.

 

Cancellations, Postponements and Disappointments.

Cancellations, Postponements and Disappointments.

We are living in very unusual times right now.  The Coronavirus has affected most all of us in some way or another.  Events all over the world have been postponed or canceled altogether.  Major sporting events have been called off.  Personally, Joann and I were planning to leave for Israel last Wednesday.  We thank the Lord that the trip was canceled, otherwise, we would be quarantined in a hotel in a foreign land right now.

Disappointments are a part of life.  When something that we have been planning to do for a long time doesn’t happen, it can be discouraging.  However, we shouldn’t let our disappointments control our attitude.  Remember that there are people whose lives have been changed in drastic and sorrowful ways these last couple of weeks and months, and their lives have been changed forever.  A verse that has kinda been a life verse for Joann and me is; Proverbs 27:1 Boast not thyself of to morrow; for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth. This verse helps us keep each day in perspective.  Live life today and don’t worry about what might happen tomorrow.  We only have today’s grace from God.  We cannot draw on tomorrow’s grace today.

If you have experienced disappointment recently, don’t allow it to bring you down.  God has a plan, look to see what the purpose for your disappointment might be and thank Him for changing your plans.

Psalm 42:11 Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope thou in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.

Praise the Lord for our disappointments, because He is always working on our behalf!

Use Our Time Wisely

Use Our Time Wisely

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.”

God has a purpose and a plan for everything that enters into the life of a believer. He also has a timetable for His plan to be accomplished. We just need to get on God’s time schedule during our times of pain.

Knowing that God has a plan and a timetable doesn’t make our pain go away. There is no set expiration date on grief; it is different for everyone. People try to establish a time limit on sorrow, a year or two, however, we cannot set an artificial timetable on a person’s grief.

Everyone is different. We grieve differently and for different amounts of time. Pain will diminish with time, but it never goes away completely. We should not ever rush through grief. Sabrina Black is quoted in the book, Grieving with Hope: Our society says, “You should be over that. That was two weeks ago; that was two months ago.” The tendency is to put on a mask and pretend you’re okay. But, you have to be honest with people and let them know this is not helping. You need to say, “This is what I feel. I need to experience this. I’m planning to get to the other side of it, but I’m not there yet.”

Grief comes upon a person like a wave on the seashore. When it happens, there is nothing you can do to stop it. It will come upon you at the weirdest times and circumstances, most times when you don’t expect it.

Then there are the times that you can see the storms of grief on the horizon, such as holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions that you know will be hard to get through. The first year you handle them the best you can. Thanksgiving was only a month and a half after our son, Johnny passed away. It is always a big holiday for us as a family. That year we just went to a restaurant. Joann didn’t want to cook and be happy at home, so we adjusted to the grief we were all feeling.

The “firsts” are very hard to get through; however, it is very common for the second time through a special occasion to be worse than the first. This is because you are not in shock anymore; you are anticipating the event. The memory of your lost loved one, coupled with the anticipation of the grief you felt the last year, makes the pain feel deeper.

As a compassionate shepherd, try to be aware of those that are without a loved one over holidays. Send a card or make a call, letting them know that you recognize they are hurting at that time. You have no idea what an encouragement that can be.

Counseling others through times of grief is a very emotional work, but the shepherd is expected to be up to the task. Remember, we won’t have any magic words to take away someone’s pain but, being in a place to bring comfort is invaluable.

If you are grieving, take the time you need to grieve. If you want to be a help to someone that is hurting, take the time to be there for them. Time is a valuable commodity, use it to the glory of God.

The above is an excerpt from the book I wrote, “The Compassionate Shepherd” available on Amazon. The Compassionate Shepherd

Family Caregivers and Grief

Family Caregivers and Grief

I posted a blog earlier this month letting people know that November is “National Family Caregivers Month.” This is in recognition of all those people that are caring for a loved one because of who they are, a family member. It may be a child with special needs, an aging parent or a spouse that needs extra attention. These everyday heroes just get up each day and do the next thing that needs to be done. They are not compensated for the tasks they do, it is a natural work birthed out of a deep love for the one in need.

I recently read an article on the subject of grief, “7 Things I Have Learned Since the Loss of My Child” by Angela Miller. It is a good article written by a woman that has experienced the hardest type of grief in my opinion. This article made me ponder the fact that we grieve over many different situations in life, death being the most recognized “Trigger of Grief.” I read a good definition of grief some time ago as ”The process of dealing with the death of a dream.”

Being a caregiver is also a “Trigger of Grief.” What I mean by that is, when we begin to take over care for a loved one, there is generally an “out of the ordinary” circumstance that puts us in the role of a caregiver. Watching our parent’s health decline brings a sense of grief; the one that has always cared for us, now needs us to care for them. We can experience watching our spouse slowly disappear; they may be with us physically, but they slip away from us mentally. For my wife, Joann and me it was when our son was born with multiple unique malformations, we loved him with all our hearts, but the dreams we had for our third child died that day. In all these scenarios the process of grief begins. And at that time and throughout the time of caregiving, the same support is desired as if a loved one has died.

Again, referencing the article, there are ways that we can encourage Family Caregivers as they navigate their roles in caring for their loved ones, in the same way, we would encourage those in grief.

• Recognize the work that they are doing. They are managing a role that is out of the realm of their expertise for most of them. They have had to learn medical terms, medications, take care of physical needs that are, at times, unpleasant. Most caregivers are tired, they are doing the work of two or three full-time jobs: managing the care of their loved ones, keeping up with home duties and many working outside the home. Letting them know you realize they are doing a great job will encourage them so much in that work.

• Talk to them about the work they are doing. Like those that grieve the loss of a loved one, those that are caregivers need to talk about their experiences. There is no need for giving advice or trying to fix them. They just need someone to listen. You may not have a clue what they are going through, but allowing them to speak is a great help to them and may eventually be a great benefit to you.

• Realize their life is not normal. When being a caregiver, you cannot be involved in many of the activities you used to be or would like to be. Friends and family need to understand that their life is different, not worse, just different. Their schedule isn’t normal, there are doctor appointments, therapy sessions, emergencies that need to be addressed. Caregivers would like to be able to do the other things, but they have more pressing obligations. Have an understanding attitude.

Grief is a hard work no matter what the reason. We can be a great encourager to those in grief if we choose to. We never know when it will be our time to grieve.